Link #i see a lot of people insisting that this is true #that someone who abuses you can still love you #i don't understand why anyone would think that #if love is caring about/for someone #wanting to see them happy #and helping them to achieve the ends they value #then abuse is at odds with every one of those aspects #and i'm sorry #but that is just some stupid bullshit #if the best 'love' your abuser can produce #is peppered throughout with mistreatment #because to me #it looks like the abuser is the one making hay here #which might be necessary for a small child #but the rest of us should get on with shunning these people